Does George Anthony Love His Daughter?

In a letter written on January 13, 2010, by George Anthony to his incarcerated daughter, Casey Anthony, he hints about his feelings for her while pressuring her to allow him to visit.

Mr. Anthony’s letter may be found at the following link.

http://www.wftv.com/pdf/24041202/detail.html

“January 13, 2010

CASEY MARIE,

JUST WANTED TO WRITE YOU A FEW LINES TO LET YOU KNOW “I LOVE YOU“.” – This is a deception.  If this was the reason for the letter, it would be over, but Mr. Anthony writes quite a bit more.  “I LOVE YOU” is doubly sensitive as it is in quotes and underlined.  “JUST” indicates this is not the only reason as it is an extra word which would have been replaced by “I” if the statement was not a deception.  “A FEW LINES” is a minimization of the rest of the letter as writing “I LOVE YOU” takes only three words.  “TO LET YOU KNOW” is not telling or writing or saying, it indicates some type of action, something further than stating “I LOVE YOU“.  The words “I LOVE YOU“, even when underlined, are not enough to convince Ms. Anthony her father loves her.

“SINCE THE LAST TIME I WROTE, WHICH WAS ABOUT 3 WEEKS AGO, I GUESS I HAVE COME TO ACCEPT THAT YOU DO NOT WANT TO SEE ME.” – “SINCE THE LAST TIME I WROTE” means Mr. Anthony’s acceptance of the situation is a change from his previous position of non-acceptance and an acknowledgment there has been no change in Ms. Anthony’s position.  “WHICH WAS ABOUT 3 WEEKS AGO” – Mr. Anthony’s change has taken place within the last 3 weeks, it is recent.  Order is important.  It was more important Mr. Anthony remind his daughter he wrote her in the past than to nail down the time frame to which he refers.  The purpose of the first phrase was not to specify time, but to state he wrote her.  “I GUESS I HAVE COME TO ACCEPT” – He does not “ACCEPT”, he guesses.  Despite his claims of change, he has not changed.  He does not “ACCEPT”, he comes to, another way to distance himself from stating “I ACCEPT”.  “THAT” distances Mr. Anthony from the next phrase which he does not like.  “YOU DO NOT WANT TO SEE ME” – Ms. Anthony does not desire to see her father.  Ms. Anthony will also not write or speak with her father, but the most important thing she will not do, which we know to be the most important to Mr. Anthony because it is the word he uses, is “SEE” Mr. Anthony.  He wants to be seen by his daughter.  As we have learned in past articles, appearances are of extreme importance to the Anthony family, especially Mr. Anthony, Mrs. Anthony, and Ms. Anthony.

“FOR REASONS THAT I DO NOT UNDERSTAND, NOR CAN I TRY TO COMPREHEND, I AM FORCED TO LIVE WHAT IS LEFT OF MY LIFE, EMPTY.” – “THAT” distances Mr. Anthony from the statement “I DO NOT UNDERSTAND”.  As we will discover later in the letter, he does understand.  “NOR CAN I TRY TO COMPREHEND” means Mr. Anthony is capable of comprehending, but chooses not to do so by not even trying.  “NOR CAN” indicates something prevents Mr. Anthony from trying.  What prevents him?  The “REASONS” force Mr. Anthony “TO LIVE WHAT IS LEFT OF MY LIFE”.  Mr. Anthony is not able to live “WHAT IS LEFT” of his life without the reasons he does not and cannot try to understand.  “WHAT IS LEFT OF MY LIFE” – Mr. Anthony is living the dregs of his life.  “EMPTY” – Mr. Anthony does not understand why he is “EMPTY”.  How do these “REASONS” he does not understand and will not try to comprehend force him to live an empty existence?  We do not know, but we do know he is implying Ms. Anthony’s refusal to look at him is part of the “REASONS”.

“I HAVE CONTINUALLY REACHED OUT TO YOU” – Sensitivity about the number of times Mr. Anthony has “REACHED OUT” noted by “CONTINUALLY”.  The effort is Mr. Anthony’s, not Ms. Anthony’s.  How has Mr. Anthony “REACHED OUT”?  We do not know, but we do know he wrote her about three weeks ago, so perhaps that was an example of his reaching out.  Perhaps this letter which attempts to lay multiple guilt trips on Ms. Anthony is reaching out in the mind of Mr. Anthony, who feels there should be a limit to the reaching out by a father to his daughter, even one who has “NEVER BEEN THE BEST FATHER”.

“APPEAL TO WHAT I KNOW WOULD BE A GOOD EMOTIONAL LIFT FOR YOU, ME, MOM, LEE (YOUR FAMILY)” – Mr. Anthony’s grammar is atrocious, making this a difficult phrase to comprehend.  “APPEAL” is what he is doing in this letter to Ms. Anthony.  He cannot “APPEAL” to either “WHAT” or a “GOOD EMOTIONAL LIFT”, he must “APPEAL” to Ms. Anthony.  He seems to be referencing a physical meeting between Ms. Anthony and the other members of her immediate family.  “I KNOW” indicates Mr. Anthony may not know as if he did, he would not need to include the reassurance he knows, also indicating Ms. Anthony does not “KNOW” or agree with his assessment.  “A GOOD EMOTIONAL LIFT” as opposed to a bad “EMOTIONAL LIFT”.  Is it possible for an “EMOTIONAL LIFT” not to be “GOOD”?  Perhaps, but in this case, “GOOD” appears to be an extra word denoting sensitivity to the “EMOTIONAL LIFT”.  A meeting of the four may not lead to good feelings or a positive outcome for any of them.  “(YOUR FAMILY)” is sensitive as Mr. Anthony must name each family member, then include the designation of “FAMILY” in parentheses, in case Ms. Anthony forgot who these people are.  There are benefits for people beyond just Ms. Anthony if she were to meet with the others.  Mr. Anthony suggests he is interested in the well-being of his other family members with this “APPEAL” even though the only negative impact he listed to anyone was himself and his emptiness.

“BUT YOUR COUNCIL DIRECTS YOU IN THE DIRECTION YOU FEEL IS RIGHT” – We assume “YOUR COUNCIL” refers to Mr. Baez and his team.  Ms. Anthony’s legal representatives direct her in “THE DIRECTION” she feels “IS RIGHT”.  Her counsel is not asking her to do anything she does not feel is the “RIGHT” thing for her to do.  Ms. Anthony determined to cease all communications with her family and her attorneys agree and support her decision.  Lots of sensitivity to “DIRECTION” and “DIRECTS” as they are virtually the same word used with three words of each other.  Ms. Anthony has been moving in the direction of less and less contact with her family with no indication of changing her heading any time soon.

“I DISAGREE” – Mr. Anthony does not agree with Ms. Anthony or her attorneys.  This is a strong honest statement.  Mr. Anthony is capable of telling the truth.

“GETTING EVEN, JUST A MINUTE OR TWO, A SMILE, A TENDER EMOTIONAL MOMENT WOULD DO US ALL A WORLD OF GOOD” – Mr. Anthony follows up his honest statement with another deception.  “WOULD DO US ALL A WORLD OF GOOD” is the deception as Mr. Anthony is interested in himself and his needs, not those of Ms. Anthony or the other family members.  Mr. Anthony is the empty one.  No mention has been made of any negative consequences for the others from the lack of contact.  “GETTING EVEN” is interesting as it is set off by a comma, making it a phrase unto itself.  Mr. Anthony is interested in “GETTING EVEN” with Ms. Anthony.  “JUST” indicates Mr. Anthony desires far more than “A MINUTE OR TWO”, which he confirms by adding “A SMILE, A TENDER EMOTIONAL MOMENT”.

“I AM EMPTY, AS I HAVE STATED MANY TIMES TO YOU” – Mr. Anthony is obsessed with his own emptiness.  Why is he empty?  What was he full of before he emptied?  He stated this once before in this letter, but when did he state it “MANY TIMES TO” Ms. Anthony?  It is important to Mr. Anthony he remind his daughter he has said this to her before.

“I KNOW I HAVE NEVER BEEN THE BEST FATHER, DAD, FRIEND FOR YOU, AND I AM SORRY.” – Mr. Anthony knows he has failed in some of his fatherly duties.  What is the difference between a “FATHER” and a “DAD”?  We do not know, but we do know Mr. Anthony perceives a distinction.  Mr. Anthony has not been a “FRIEND” to his daughter.  Mr. Anthony is sorry for his failings.  Why is Mr. Anthony sorry?  Why is Mr. Anthony including this apology in his appeal to see Ms. Anthony?  His apology is disingenuous because it is being used for the purpose of swaying Ms. Anthony to granting Mr. Anthony his opportunity to see her.  If he had started this letter with his apology, it may have seemed more sincere, but it’s current position in the letter is after he has laid on several guilt trips and made his appeal, meaning it is support for his appeal.

“I HAVE AGED SO MUCH, INSIDE & OUT.” – Mr. Anthony focuses some more on Mr. Anthony.  He has aged “INSIDE & OUT”.  Again, appearances are important to Mr. Anthony.  He feels he looks “AGED” on the outside.  This is another guilt trip.  Ms. Anthony is to blame for Mr. Anthony’s aging, therefore she should grant his request.

“I HAVE BECOME A LOSS FOR WORDS.” – This is a bizarre statement.  We don’t know what Mr. Anthony has “BECOME” as he has aged and emptied, but we do know he is not at “A LOSS FOR WORDS” as this letter is full of them.

“YOUR MOM & BROTHER DESERVE MORE, THEN WHAT THEY HAVE BEEN GIVEN. LET MOM & LEE HAVE TIME TO SEE YOU… PLEASE!” – Another disingenuous appeal on behalf of other people even though Mr. Anthony has just finished another section detailing his own woes, but none of Mrs. Anthony’s or Lee Anthony’s.  Why do they “DESERVE MORE” when they have “BEEN GIVEN” something?  What have they done to “DESERVE MORE”?  Is what they have done the same as what Mr. Anthony has done, meaning he also deserves “MORE”?

“DAD” – Mr. Anthony ends the letter without a farewell expression, notably not “LOVE” as most family letters to a loved one would end.  Mr. Anthony withholds his love.  Even though Mr. Anthony began this letter stating he wanted to let Ms. Anthony know how much he loved her, he never actually stated he loves her (the one reference was in quotes, meaning he was not stating it directly to her and offset by the verbal distancing of “TO LET YOU KNOW”).

We have learned Mr. Anthony wrote his letter to Ms. Anthony for a purpose beyond telling her he loves her.

We have learned Mr. Anthony blames Ms. Anthony for his internal emptiness and feelings of age.

We have learned Mr. Anthony does not agree with Mr. Baez.

We have learned Mr. Anthony is not above using the members of his immediate family for his own personal gain.

We have learned Mr. Anthony knows Ms. Anthony, not her attorneys, made the decision not to see him.

We have learned Mr. Anthony understands, but will not accept, Ms. Anthony’s reasons for not seeing him.

We have learned Mr. Anthony uses his love as a bargaining chip, just as his wife does.